Little Things: Do they count or no?

I've always told Matthew that it's the little things that matter most. I'm not the kind of girl that needs anything material to make me extremely happy. I'm amused very easily, anyone who knows me, knows this. Examples:

a text message during the day to say I love you
leaving behind a note that says something to the effect of: hope you have a great day!
a love letter (ladies, depending on your man try not to push this one, it's just not their kind of thing)
hand picked flower(s) ("just because" are the best ones)
helping clean up after dinner

I could go on about all the small gestures that make relationships with your significant matter most.And everyone is different. All that being said, we've heard that it's the little things that matter.
Ok, strike that and reverse it: now when you're fighting (and like it or not, fights are going to happen-you have to pick and choose your battles), sometimes the worst fights are over little things. I'll give you the biggest example of this: leaving the toilet seat up.

The toilet seat is a world-wide battle (so don't feel like you're the only ones). Couples will fight to the death over this and you know...it's pointless. It's annoying, but it's not worth fighting over.
I get aggravated when there's water around the outside of the sink, like on the countertop. It's a huge pet peeve of mine, and probably a little OCD; however, Matthew knows how much I hate it. Yet, the boy will not wipe it down and takes on the "I don't know what you're talking about" role. After 3 years of living together, and the first two arguing over this little thing: I've realized it's not worth it. I just wipe it down and ask him (nicely) to clean up after himself. It's all I can do. My dad tells me that the little things don't matter. It's funny because this whole time you've thought they are what matter most. lol So to save yourself some heartache, think about those little things that drive you crazy or the ones that make you smile. Determine if they're worth the trouble or worth the reward. Love and be loved! xoxo~