Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Are You Talking to Me?

Relationships are great aren't they? They make us feel special and complete, even whole. Sometimes we get so comfortable in our relationships that we misinterpret what our other half is communicating to us. I ran across an interesting article in this month's Cosmopolitan magazine. It was intriguing and right on the money. Unforunately I couldn't find the article on Cosmo's website, so when you get a chance go pick one up in your local store or browse through it in a bookstore. You won't regret it.

Anyway, we forget the detail when talking with our significant other. We become so familiar with one another that we think we can skip the details. And what research has shown, is that this leads to confusion, misinterpretation...and finally an argument. For instance, if you were telling a complete stranger how to get to a restaurant you would give them street names and specifics. But if your spouse were to ask you, we'd end up saying something like "Oh it's over there where our favorite hangout is" Well he/she may not remember just which favorite hangout you mean. It can be something as simple as that.

Also, being on the computer or on your cellphone while talking with your spouse (or just in general) allows for miscommunication. We all know that when we're doing something other than directly looking at the person speaking, we don't hear everything he/she has to say. We should take the time to focus on our partner and pay attention to what they are telling you. Trust me, it's very easy to do this. But we have to take the time to make time for the person who decided that we are worth their time. :)

All that being said, get back to talking. We are getting to an era where
everything is technical and we're losing touch with each other on a personal level. Bring it back and show some love by just lending an ear and attentiveness to that special someone.

Love and Be Loved!


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